"We learn that conflicts are a part of reality, and we learn new ways to resolve them instead of running from them."
Basic Text, p. 90
From time to time, we all experience conflicts. It may be that we just can't get along with that new co-worker. Maybe our friends are driving us crazy. Or perhaps our partner isn't living up to our expectations. Dealing with any conflict is difficult for recovering addicts.
When tempers rise, it is often a good idea to back away from the situation until cooler minds prevail. We can always return to further discussion when we have calmed down. We can't avoid troubling situations, but we can sue time and distance to find perspective.
Conflict is a part of life. We can't go through our entire recovery without encountering disagreements and differences of opinion. Sometimes we can back away from these situations, taking time to reflect on them, but there always comes a time when conflict must be resolved. When that time comes, we take a deep breath, say a prayer, and apply the principles our program has given us: honesty, openness, responsibility, forgiveness, trust, and all the rest. We didn't get clean to keep running from life - and in recovery, we don't have to run anymore.
Just for Today: The principles my program has given me are sufficient to guide me through any situation. I will strive to confront conflict in a healthy way.
confronting conflict in a healthy way. Hmmmmmmmm.... Not my history. I can be drawn to conflict as an observer of your chaos but totally do not know how to resolve my own situations. So I use the tools the program has given me. Sponsor, prayer, meditation, support group. It's better this way.
Conflict...I'm good when I step back, pray ,and spiritually look for a solution. Conflict...I'm done when I start to blame ,need to be right and speak without thought and "me" based solutions. This is based on my evidence!!!!!
Continue to take personal inventory,and when I'm wrong promptly admit it!(10) Even if I'm RIGHT,what is to be gained by any interaction? Think Mike :) (11)
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
I had many conflicts yesterday ( mostly in my mind ) and at the end of the day probably for the first time EVER I did a step 10 of my entire day ( whilst sitting on the toilet LOL ) and each event that I had conflict with, girlfriend, AA members, 2 people who raced there cars in front of me in the bank line, dealing with racings idiots on the highway, there were a few more.
I looked at how i handled each thing and saw where I really failed in a few places especially the one where the cars pulled in front of me RUDELY and I pulled my truck up next to them and GUNNED MY MOTOR then lit up my tires giving them looks of a MANIAC LOLOL ok not funny, but I totally had no self restraint I did no prayer and I sure didn't do my usual God bless them lord thing where i keep my cool the only way i know how is to pray for them idiots tool,,, HEH HEH but that does work when I decide to use it.
Anyhow i was surprised at how clear everything came in to focus at the end of the day I dont usually get that i'm a scatter brain and barely functional enough to know my own name, to much crack cocaine and weed I guess. So what I did was pray for power over these situation and to get help finding new ways of dealing with them and the power to carry that out, I want change I want growth and maturity and to be able to pracitce spiritual principles in every aspect and situation , with every person place things that comes into my life, thats my goal, A men
Thanks for sharing that Vin! whats the saying'lifes a b---h and then you die!! I am feeding into it,but I had to laugh visualizing the big truck,smoking tires,insane stare..."That'll teach them knuckleheads"!!! :) Coulda been years ago I will presume,where you would have gotten out of the truck and started or finished a "war" huh!! A positive move forward,me thinks...........:).........
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
