"Indirect amends may be necessary where direct ones would be unsafe or endanger other people."
Basic Text, p. 41
When we used, we allowed nothing to stand in the way of that next high. As a result, many of us didn't always know precisely whom we had injured, either financially or emotionally. When it came time to make amends through our Ninth Step, we found that there were so many people we had victimized that we might never remember them all.
With the help of our sponsor and other recovering members of NA, we found a solution to this obstacle. We vowed to complete these nameless amends by making restitution to our communities. We focused our service efforts on helping the still-suffering addict. In this manner, we found a way to give back to society.
Today, with the love and guidance of members in NA, we are giving back to the world around us rather than taking. We are making our communities better places to live by carrying the message of recovery to those we encounter in our daily lives.
Just for Today: I will make indirect amends by reaching out to an addict who may need help. I will strive in some small way to make my community a better place in which to live.
One of the most freeing and wonderful things I was able to do when I did my 9th step was to write a letter to my best friend who killed himself the night we left each other from partying.It helped me to relieve all the guilt,anger ,pain and emotions that kept me locked for years.I have that letter in a locked box with all my valuable papers,thats like 2 (dd214 and birth certificate!!)I asked my wife when God calls me to take it out and read it some she can join the love that me and Rick shared for the 30 years of his life,Indirect amends ,Im sure drive me in a lot of my daily life,only through the grae of God.Thanks Don for daily JFT here,most days they are so pertinent to our lives ..talk to ya on the rebound!!
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.