I let someone own me, she told me she wanted nothing to do with me and the day before we had a decent talk and then the next day she slams me hard and cold , so the guy renting a room from me starts on my ass about talking to her and why this and why that and i picked a dinning room chair up and almost slammed his head with it just stopping myself at the last minute. He kept throwing fuel to my fire I asked NO BEGGED him to stop and he kept on and on and i lost it.
So that was my botrtom with this ex girlfriend i'm done and letting it go everytimne she enters my head turning it over and over like she was THE DOPE and im damn sure done with that just have to do the same with this obsession....
Hey Vini! thanks for bringing it to us ,the pain shared can be pain lessened.Relations can be "TERRIBLY" painful areas our literature tells us...Glad you didnt go any farther and get yourself back in a jam.We relapse many different ways and they ain't got nothing to do with the drug. In support ,will keep you in prayer,keep yourself occupied,try and get her out of your head and try to get out of their yourself,Pray it looks better tomorrow......peace
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
HEY VINNY... AFTER READING A REALLY GOOD BOOK CALLED THE "CELESTINE PROPHECY", WHICH DEALS PRIMARILY WITH NEGATIVE PEOPLE TRYING TO STEAL POSITIVE ENERGY FROM GOOD PEOPLE. FROM WHAT I HAVE READ ON YOUR MESSAGE, IT SOUNDS TO ME LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN ATTACKED & BITTEN BY THE ENERGY VAMPIRES.
I HAVE MANY AQUAINTANCES IN MY LIFE, BUT FEW FRIENDS. I USED TO ALLOW ALL KINDS OF UNACCEPTABLE BEHAVIOR FROM PEOPLE SO AS I DIDN'T FEEL ALONE. TODAY, I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE THAN TO LET PEOPLE TREAT ME IN THE SAME FASHION THAT YOU ARE BEING TREATED. THE DEGREE OF LOVE I HAVE FOR MYSELF, WILL DETERMINE THE DEGREE OF RESPECT I GET FROM THOSE IN MY INNER CIRCLE.
I ENDED A RELATIONSHIP OVER A YR AGO. I DID THIS BECAUSE I COULD NO LONGER WEAR THE DENIAL. SHE HAD BEEN USING FOR 2 YRS, AND I SAID NOTHING BECAUSE I DID NOT WANT TO BE ALONE. SHE FINALLY CAME, FORGIVE THE PUN, " CLEAN " WITH ME ABOUT HER USING, & ALL OF A SUDDEN REALIZED THAT MY TRUST HAD BEEN BREACHED, MY DENIAL HAD GONE SO DEEP, & RESPECT FOR ME AS HER PARTNER WAS NON EXISTENT. THERE WERE MANY TIMES THAT I CAME SO CLOSE TO GETTING PHYSICAL WITH HER, BUT STOPPED MYSELF AS YOU DID. THERE ARE ONLY A FEW HURDLES THAT I DID NOT HAVE TO JUMP WHEN I CAME INTO RECOVERY. ONE WAS I NEVER HAD TO GO TO JAIL, & THE OTHER IS I NEVER HIT A WOMAN. I'LL BE DAMNED IF I WILL ALLOW ANYONE, MAN OR WOMAN, TO CHANGE THAT. MANY TIMES IT WAS BUT FOR THE GRACE OF GOD, BUT I DIDN'T . THAT IS ALL THAT MATTERS. THOSE WHO TRY TO STEAL MY ENERGY TODAY, TO MAKE THEMSELVES FEEL BETTER, ARE NO LONGER IN MY CIRCLE. RESPECT IS EARNED, NOT HANDED OUT.
TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE IS WHAT I LIVE BY.
TAKE CARE VINNY. I HOPE THIS MESSAGE HELPED A BIT..STRENGTH & HONOR...TRLBLZR
-- Edited by TRLBLZR on Monday 14th of June 2010 09:18:36 AM
Thanks guys all that helped he's leaving in 2 weeks going back where he came from and i'm good with that , it helped when i needed help and hopefully I was some service to him .
YES my ex was an energy robber I spent so much energy just trying to accept all that was going on and trying not to react to anything , this is a good thing us being apart i doubt we'd even make it on a friendship level now . But it did get me to get my life or at least try to get my life in order thru NA and AA programs and i've learned a lot about who and what I am an how I can make things better and believe it or not my spiritual life has improved LOL wouldn't know it sometimes but generally things are better.
Stay clear of insanity - even though we like to visit - best to evict anything that is causing undo reasoning..Hang in there brother (People, Places, and things)
was almost there today Vini, I know what you're talking about my friend... it could have gotten worse if not for me catching myself in my dope fiend act as my Sponsor would like to say...
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
been there done that i need no help at all with my stinking thinking i will no longer let anyone rent space in my head god bless and go in peace my son
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some of us win some of us lose with god and this program i will be a winner
