"A lot of our chief concerns and major difficulties come from our inexperience with living without drugs. Often when we ask an old timer what to do, we are amazed at the simplicity of the answer."
Basic Text, p. 43
Finding balance in recovery is quite a bit like sitting down with a set of scales and a pile of sand. The goal is to have an equal amount of sand on each side of the scales, achieving a balance of weight.
We do the same thing in recovery. We sit down with the foundation of our clean time and the Twelve Steps, then attempt to add employment, household responsibilities, friends, sponsees, relationships, meetings, and service in equal weights so that the scales balance. Our first try may throw our personal scales out of kilter. We may find that, because of our over-involvement in service, we have upset our employer or our family. But when we try to correct this problem by resigning from NA service altogether, the other side of the scales go out of balance.
We can ask for help from members who have stabilized their scales. These people are easy to recognize. They appear serene, composed, and self-assured. They'll smile in recognition at our dilemma and share how they slowed down, added only a few grains of sand at a time to either side of the scales, and were rewarded with balance in recovery.
Just for Today: I seek balance in my life. Today, I will ask others to share their experience in finding that balance.
A lot of our chief concerns and major difficulties come from our inexperience with living without drugs
I used to fear life without drugs. How will I sleep? How will I get through the day? These fears were groundless. Yes, it's rough in the beginning, but the program has shown me a better way of life.
Morning ! I have to really pay attention with balancing things as I have an "all for me tendancy"(can't be self centeredness can it???:)even if I think its all good. When I'm AT MEETINGS,CELEBRATIONS,COMMITTEES,AREA,ON THE PHONE,is there a blance in my family?I am always vigilante about"recovery at home"but it still takes someone close to me at times, to remind me about the balance,,obsessions,compulsions,but at least I' m in a renewed form of sanity and am aware and can adjust...My HP will scream,(well maybe not scream:)) be still my son you are not paying attention!!!Now I can hear Him.......
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Avid, Thanks for the pot on balance in your life. It couldnt have come at a better time. Not being able to find the right balance between my recovery & the rest of my world is one o of my biggest struggles. It is also one of the reasons I decided to go back and complete the recovery program i had started last summer. i really needed to hear how other people handled so again thanks.
Stacey
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