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Passing away of my pet.


My pomeranian of 20 years age, Jolly, is no more.
She died in her sleep this morning and had been comatose for a few days now.

I was 2 years in recovery than and still remember the day we brought her home, a cute, litte,fluffy bundle of energy. My ma immediately took cherge of brining her up. She played, ate guarded and slept well. She remained a virgin all her life. She was very vigilant.
One nought, she foiled a burglary attempt by three criminals and her ferocity scared them off. My ma was witness to the whole incident and was all praises for Jolly.
Another feature was that she remained vegetarian all her life and was by and large healthy. She had few instances of epileptic attack which however was controlled through medication.

Ive come to believe that these pets teach us a lot about loving and caring without expecting anything in return. Il certainly miss Jolly but am also happy she did not have to suffer anymore. RIP.

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My thoughts and prayers with you my friend.Remember the good times and the happiness of knowing she is no longer in pain.Years ago we had to put our cat to sleep,bone disease and the feelings were one of sadness and joy!So long ,Jolly  good and faithful servant.

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My condolences on the loss of your beloved pet.
I agree that pets can teach us much regarding love, nurture, and loyalty.
My Benny is a 10 year old miniature poodle whom my wife and I rescued a few months ago. He is toothless with cataracts and brings many gifts to our house.
Will you be getting another dog soon?
After our maltese Chloe died at 16 we waited a year before getting Benny.
Whatever you decide, may you always find peace.

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Raman,I am sorry to hear of the loss of Jolly,pets give us unconditional love when we need it.I know your dog will be missed.

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Sorry to hear Raman Jolly had a good long life you were blessed and so was she !.


I gave my sister a cat i recued about 12-13 years ago and we think she may have cancer and is not doing well at all she will know today, the best most loving cat I EVER came across and this will be difficult since sis lost her husband to cancer about 9 months ago

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Sorry to hear about your pet - It's nice to see that we can get attached and love

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Thanks for the messages guys,,, I went thru a bout of anger at her loss.

That morning, my daughter Anju woke me up at about 7 with a tear in her eys saying
"Daddy, Jolly's stopped breathing".

I went and saw that she had. She'd been in coma for three dys and only breathing tiil her la
breath. Now she was gone.
I sat next to her and prayed for her soul.

Ma was saying she'd get a vet to pronounce her dead before she did the last rites, so I said ok.
And in the meanwhile, I went to get a small nap.

Strange thing happens next=
Jolly comes in as a bundle of spirit and stands at the foot of the bed.
I beckon her to come near, she does.
I stroke her head and say bye with a smile and then she's gone, vanished into thin air.

Later on, I snooze off and ma and Anju come in and say Ma's takng her to the vets.
I said "Ok, but pleae ring on any further action" and went back to the snooze.

Two hours later, ma calls and I go down and share tha experience of Jollys appearance in my bedroom and Im smiling.
Then Ma says
"Ive wnet with helpers from the vet hopsital and buried her".
I flared up at this because Ma had not kept up her promise to call us before any further action.
I was actually devastated that neither I, nor Anju were there for the last rites.

I had a showdown with ma and then thought
"Ma has always been like this, so why did I expect her to behave otherwise".
Moreover I excused her as she is old now, 70 and she was the one that primarily cared for Jolly; maybe she wanted that privacy ???
God knows, but I did not let that ruin my last experience with Jolly; her appearance to me in spirit.

Before it grew into resentment and hate, I shared feelings with my girl and then came a realization that I, of myself, should be more responsible.
I let a bit of tiredness control me and I certainly wish it was me that had done the last rites and not ask old Ma to do that.

Point is that once peoiple are identified as such, it dosent make sense to expect them to change and do things in unison with others; thnak God NA has taught me the value of team action.

Now that said, the experience with Jollys spirit can be called a hallucination, but Im not on drungs anymore, so how can it be ?
I wish to believe that it was a real occurance of the supernatural kind, and is a valid experience for me.
This is all about the ties that bind and un-conditional love and care!!

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Yes Don,, looking seriously at getting a new pet; cant think of life without one or home without one.

My lab of 12 passes away 4 months ago and now my pom,, but Im not giving up on em yet,, I need em in my life,, sure as the sun comes up in the east !

Thanks for asking,, for reminding me !

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We're such emotional out of control people, i get angry with myself for acting first instead of thinking. But you figured out what your ma was going through. Such a strange experience raman that dream but it came at a time of stress and i'm sure your mind was trying to change things, make it different, better then again maybe it was a spirirtual experience and its good that you take it that way. i had the same experience with my chelsea cat i was so stressed over her loss and wanting her back, I layed in bed and wept so hard one night so over powered by the experience of POWERLESSNESS, i dreamnt that night of having her back but was able to let go in the dream, in the morning the acceptance was there.

Yes many animals homeless all my cats were rescued most from the street and sure death , now they have this really cool wonderful home with me LOL, there my kids.

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Thanks for sharing that Vin,,

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