Guy i just moved in has 5 months sober ( he's alcoholic ) and our aggreement was he would be going to meetings getting a sponsor all that stuff if he moved in he just notified me he's not going to be doing that its too inconvenient since his job and transportation dont make it EASY for him and he feels church is just as good that AA is a water down version of the church.
THEN he started criticizing my program and thats when the AX came down and i got pissed off BAD and started yelling i lost it and basically told him to pack his shit if he wasn't going to live up to his agreement I was doing him the favor letting him move in here and i didnt need him here nor his money I was trying to help him out and at the same time save me a little money but that was as long as he did what we agreed to.
HE manipulated me to get in and it aint happening told him i'd give him some time to think on it and make a decision other wise he needs to get out, plain n simple.
Assertive works better than aggressive get glad in the same pants you got mad in asnd breathe then practice principles before personalities! love ya brother from another mother
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Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. Og Mandino
Ahh them spiritual principles!!WE ALL FLIP OUT,BUT ITS THE 'FLIP OUT RECOVERY AND AMENDS" that reenforces our growth.Good for you Vinnie,its an important matter and issue that you dealt with ,being around and addict who is not seriously willing to 'work' recovery can be a dangerous area.I know personally cause I live with one,my son!!You also,by proxy ,may reestablish in this fellow the importance of ' working recovery and not just abstinence,2 very different animals!I also personally am aware as I remained abstinent for many years but "my new way of life' didnt occur until I practised and lived the 'solution of Narcotics Anonymous" the steps and traditions..Shake it off pal,you made your stand,realized your approach was not what you wanted it to be,stayed true to your convictions and passed the ball>>Man thats lot of stuff in one event eh!!peace my friend
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
He's been sober for 5 months which is not long at all. I'm certain there are meetings that he can attend that don't interfere with his work schedule. He is choosing not to because he doesn't see the value in it. It's easier to go buy more alcohol and drink. I remember my 5 month mark and I had days when I wanted to give up and give into the drugs. Staying clean seemed pointless.
Continue to enforce those boundaries and if he doesn't comply with the agreement then you are within your right to withdraw yours. It's kind of you to allow him to stay with you for now and I applaud you for that.
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"No one is immune from addiction; it afflicts people of all ages, races, classes, and professions". Patrick Kennedy
Thanks everyone I got home today and he was sitting at the dinning room table firguring out what meetings to go to we all need our covers pulled at times someone to call us on our BS someone that knows our ways Im trying not to judge who am I there go I...
we all need our covers pulled at times someone to call us on our BS someone that knows our ways Im trying not to judge who am I there go I...
