Understanding Step 3

The mother of all addictions is the addiction to separation and the emptiness within that is the consequence.When you believe that you are separate from God, as you understand him, you become dissociated from yourself and live in a state of spiritual denial.The result is a deep insatiable emptiness which you attempt to fill with addictions, none of which does the job, because you have not released the underlying problem.It is said we look for love in all the wrong places.So it is that we attempt to fill up the emptiness with sex, drugs, rock and roll, money, conquests, alcohol, food or fancy things; but the more of whatever we get, the emptier we become.The truth is the love we are seeking can never come from all the cheap substitutes.Not even the substitute of another person does the job.The reason is simple, there is no substitute for the love of a Higher power.No addiction can create the lasting peace and passion of the love of God, as you understand him yet the cheap thrills we experience from our addictions, the rush of energy from junk food, junk emotions, junk relationships, and junk bonds can give us a temporary illusion of true success. But the morning after we wake up with the same old empty feelings in our gut.In the end it is only by healing our addiction to separation that we can heal our other addictions.It is only by surrendering our lives to our Higher Power (Step 3) that we can live a truly successful and fulfilling life.