I would tell them to let go.Let go of old thoughts ,open your mind to let new ideas in that will help you learn a new way of life after using.We all had to learn to listen to what was being said and open our minds to let the information in . Surrender is admitting we are an addict and need help and being able to ask for the help we ever so much need.It's proven recovery takes more than yourself ,thats when we need others.