that is different to all of us but for me in this last year it has fed my negative self talk that can keep me sick ...my biggest bein "I am too fat and to crazy for anyone to love me...well I am no longer overweight but heres the new stuff and don't forgetr I am an addict well ok now I have myfacial pain syndrome with fibermyalgia lie traits and thne they are talking about surgery do what ever you gotta dso to make me not wasnn hurt myself MAKE IT STOP! hers the thing tho looks only get youy so far how would you even date would it not be dishonest if Ididn't tell them have these issues then on down the linbe something or some one flips out then wht i think if itell all in the beging then they can take or leave it
neway who is gonna want someone like me and with all my issues with muliplicity and duality and then the physical aspect tooo would love to know what ya ll thought
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Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. Og Mandino
Hi Manon! I would say that "all" of us have many facets of our lives that we may not be thrilled about but the real beauty comes from inside.Even though I am a 'NEWBIE" ON THIS FORUM i have watched you struggle with many issues and yet come back with 12th step work suggestions for others here and then in turn listen to yourself.Honesty IS THE PREMISE TO OUR VERY 1ST STEP.Learning to love yourself and letting others see the"real" you whether its 'Frankenstein or Mother Theresa allows you to just "live" each day to the best of your ability.(some days we really wreek at that other days we shine.At 62 years old iM thinkin if the love of my life only wanted me because I am terminally hip and fatally cool and a handsome dude whos rich and sucessful iT WOULDNT BE HAPPENING!!!Let your spiritual light shine and all the rest will follow.By the time I reached the point of my 3rd marriage I also wondered who the heck would want me with all my baggage(wouldnt fit in a trailways bus)God brought me my angel I FIRMLY BELIEVE THAT,but I had to do the work to keep the gift.Give your real self so they'll be no debate down the road .thats all we got!!!Hope you get some relief from your pain I definitely will keep you in prayer as I do with all others during my 'DAILY OFFICE"Peace, make the most of this day
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
Manon, Your a beautiful young woman with a warm heart and loving nature. You can date whoever you want. Everyone has faults....many many of us have serious flaws. It is a form of putting your self down to share with someone else the details of all your problems before you even get to know them. It is not being dishonest to discreetly hold back personal details when you first meet someone. As the relationship develops and trust begins to form, then you open up a little bit more and more. Give yourself and the other person a chance. I wish you all the best avid.
Manon ,Everyone has some issue,we are human.If someone can't accept us for ourselves we don't need them.Know doubt it could be nice to warn them of issues.Keep up ypur self esteem you are the most important one in your life.
Hi Manon....I've heard there may be a few people out there who have no flaws, no baggage, no issues, no pain, no doubts...but I've never met any myself.
I don't worry my head with telling people what they'll figure out eventually anyway....which is definately a two-way street. It's called "getting to know you", and it's just part of being human!
Ever hear the saying that addicts suffer from "terminal uniqueness"? That was a valuable thing for me to hear when I was trying to get back on my feet mentally, physically, financially etc etc , because it brought me back to the "we" of the steps, which keep me in balance. Much of recovery, for me, is all about balance (which I relate to the second part of the 12th step).
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From dying and surviving to living and thriving. LeeU
Many of us are dual-diagnosis. I eventually had to surrendur to the fact that I am mentally ill and have to take medications to function. It was easy for me to let that make me feel all alone, but my addiction really likes to alienate me from others. I found a dual-diagnosis group, which was good, but found that the NA program and regular NA meetings were what I needed. My Sponsor, my Therapist, and my Psychiatrist are all part of my recovery team. I won't take any meds with a high abuse potential, but I consider my psych meds to be part of my program. If I don't take care of my mental well-being, I can't stay clean.
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I may not be 'All That', but I'm always on my mind!
