My husband was arrested October 10 for business burglary and bonded out of jail Thursday October 15 by falsifying information.
Friday morning October 16, 2009 , the bail bondsman contacted me about paying the rest of the $250 for my husbands bail. I informed the bondsman that my husband was a crack addict and did not have a job and no longer lived with me. I told the bondsman that he had been con by my husband. My husband used information about me and my job to get out of jail. I was so angry that his crack woman impersonated me that I drove by his drug dealers house.
I saw my husband's SUV that now belonged to his drug dealer. I had a feeling that my husband was in the house so I returned home and contacted the bail bondsman so they could put his butt back in jail. They picked him up Friday and beat the living daylights out of him. He is now sore and in jail where he belongs. I also contacted the sheriff department to file an identify thief complaint. When will this nightmare end. --- my husband is 44 years old ????
Self-protection, for me, is essential and the utmost priority in dealing with nightmares of any and all sorts. I have found that with diligent and sufficient self-protection my nightmares eventually diminish and even disappear. Defining and applying that self-protection is the "work" that I gratefully seek and accept help with.
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From dying and surviving to living and thriving. LeeU
I'm so glad you did the right thing!!!! You can rest assured that the nightmare for you will end, for him-not so much- UNLESS HE wants it to end. That is typical addict behavior, and until he wants it, nothing can be done. It sounds like he doesn't want it-yet.All you can do is keep yourself close to God, and let him work. He is working right now even though it doesn't seem like it. We don't know why things happen, but nothing in God's world happens by accident. Good Luck girl and I'll keep you in my prayers. Love Ya'!
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I'm glad you got even with your husband.And some bitch stealing your idenity to bail him out.You see what a life of active addiction can do to a person.A lot of us have been there and done that.What he did is called burning his last bridge he had to burn.
Take care of yourself DELTA! The areas we enter when in "full blown active using mode"are places we wouldnt think possible.THEY ARE!! Glad your okay and fending for yourself.I will continue to keep you in my prayers and thoughts......
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I hate to think back at the some of the things my husband has said and done during our 11 years of marriage. I am fearful of the magnitude of the rage I have within me. If that rage was released right now, I could take a gun and put that SOB out of his F--KING misery.
When will this wound in my heart heal and how can it heal if it is constantly be ripped opened?
Hey Delta,normal feelings ,,FOR ME,my faith beliefs teach that in order to be forgiven I must forgive.THIS IS FOR A "GRUDGE TO THE GRAVE' TYPE DUDE.This is an area that I will never be able to stop 'working in".AND IN "how it works" says in step 8 presents us with a problem,we may have difficulty admitting we caused harm for others,because we thought we were victims of our addiction.We must separate what was done to us from what we did to others.I have to constantly 'WORK ; these 2 principles (8&9)as I have felt victim.and villian!!You need to "free" yourself so right here you are sharing your pain,a first step.I will keep you in prayer and definitely wish you peace.Emotions are what make us go around,how we react to them is really what makes the difference.Every day when I stumble I try and see which emotion took me down and why I reacted like I did.Some days I rationalize ,that i was justified,other days not so.But what did it 'DO TO ME"thats most important.keep letting us know how you are doing,"As FIRESIGN THEATER" used to say(an album I used to listen to way back)WERE ALL BOZO'S ON THIS BUS!!! Amen!! wasnt meant to be "a sermon" just the marbles(whats left) in my head moving around.......peace
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