OH WOW that's all I can say I am so glad I got turned onto this group by a friend in recovery.
The group is for people like me who want to change there lives who keep making the same mistakes over and over in their personl lives. The group teachs HOW to be a therapeutic person for yourself and for the ones you love and care about.
It is open to the public for the last 20 years and is FREE, its the director is a man who has a PHD in marriage and family therapy and really seems to be a wonderful gentle giant of a man his stats are
Specializing in PTSD, Panic Disorder, OCD, Depression, Anger Management and Marriage and Family Conflicts, I teach individuals and couples how to become therapeutic for themselves and the ones they love by using a Cognitive > Affective > Behavioral approach to change.
This group had about 15 people in it, changes from week to week, some are regulars and everyone gets involved in feed back, they try to keep away from the Ann Landers quik fix solutions not telling you what to do only making suggestions and sharing options.
I did share which they said was unusual for a first timer but I told them I want help and I want it now LOL I want them to know me and whats going on and find away to help me. I left there feeling HOPE and yeah I cried because I think I may have finally found that hope in a hopeless situation.
The sharing was INTENSE from other members even scary, role playing is part of the therapy , it gets really heavy I can't discuss much more then that due to confidentiality rules.
Anyhow anyone with something like this in your area sure is worth looking into and maybe checking out I will be going every Saturday morning for as long as I need to and then some.
-- Edited by BigV on Saturday 19th of September 2009 06:52:20 PM
I just didn't give up and kept talking to people and finally ran into a person who had experienced the the same situation and had found help. I think this is a very unique group but something like this should be every where.
I appreciate it guys I think this one sessions already opened me up to new ideas and new ways to communicate well at least it has made me aware of how I communicate with others which has been very blunt and selfcentered, I have to admitt that much and somehow i just couldn't get the spiritual ideas to work I needed tools to work with and this will help me become a more selfless spiritual person, that is my hope.
Man I feel you on the anger management. I am going to look into one where I live. I have been angry for along time and I really was thinking about going to a group for my anger. Now I think I am just going to do it. Thanks!!!!
The hidden benefit is that you will learn to treat yourself better (read love yourself). Whatever we give others we have to give ourselves first (good or bad). We learn to love ourself, then we share that love with others, otherwise, we are just pretending.
-- Edited by DeanC on Tuesday 22nd of September 2009 06:13:12 AM
My wife and I completed an anger management program.It seems to have helped,we have to use the tools we learned in our class,they teach you to think before you talk.You have to not keep provoking each other.We are starting to live a happier life now,and learning how to care about each other.
Whelp I had a great opportunity last night to try out my new found anger management tools and ALMOST failed, my voice got loud my heart rate went out the roof I want to run get in my truck and go home but I worked through it and I just need to get a better understand of this one certain deflection tool the one that shuts down other people LOL I forget the name given to this tool but hopefully next weekend I'll right it down because it sounded very effective when it was taught in the group, this tool is communication one that drops the defensiveness of each person so that no one ends up angry or put down.
Glad to hear a few of you have gone or are considering outside help , the hard part for me is the group setting and trusting others but there sure seems to be a strong desire for everyone to help each other so I'm going in this with some faith.
BigV one thing that helped me tremendously was listening to Gary Smally's tapes on relationships. Communication is a negotiation where we share our ideas with the other person most often to persuade them to understand (and hopefully agree) with our point of view. The very second that we insult, demean, threaten, insinuate, ultimatum, humiliate, anger, embarrass them with derogatory or sarcastic language or body gestures, their "Wall" goes up and they absolutely don't hear us and you won't convince them of anything. In fact they will believe exactly the opposite. In other words you lose. You also will lose the relationship eventually. With many people, you'll only get one chance. So when you have the urge to use explosive language and body gestures, because you think that you can influence that person into doing or thinking what you want them to, remember that you instantly lose and your credibility is seriously demminished for the next time that you talk to them.
Fantastic! Sounds like HP has picked you up and plunked you down in just the right place at the right time. Don't ya just love it!
