Has anyone had a past relationship that ended badly and then tried to get back together with that person and had nothing but dead ends. I am trying to mend my past with this girl and it seems like all we do is fight about who did what to one another and it makes me defensive with her. What should I do? Or what should I stop doing?
Just saying hello! we have same birthday march 25 ...cool! welcome to site,share what you can and hope there may be some suggestions that help...peace mikef
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Our purpose is to remain clean,just for today,and to carry the message of recovery.
You know what I had this women that I was dating in high school and afterward and we broke up badly and went our seperate ways. We both used drugs and alcohol and she took the low road and I took the high one. But still we were both using. I remember telling her one day when I had gotten clean that she will never amount to anything and that her life was going to be like this always. That got her into recovery. Years later we came back to each other and forgave but didn't let go of the past and the pain. She has 4 years clean and me 9 and you know I never thought about this until today. That by getting her to recovery she returned the favor and brought me to my first meeting. Today I can say thank you to her and that I love her and leave it at that. I don't have to be right and I don't have to be heard. I owe a lot to her and it's because of this program that I am able to admit that today. God Bless.
Has anyone had a past relationship that ended badly and then tried to get back together with that person and had nothing but dead ends. I am trying to mend my past with this girl and it seems like all we do is fight about who did what to one another and it makes me defensive with her. What should I do? Or what should I stop doing?
If your going to start over you have to agree to start fresh and not hash up all the old BS and come back with a new REVISED ATTITUDE , I am in one right now and all goes well until I start reacting and acting in my negative ways and I wont call them OLD WAYS until I stop doing them for quite awhile.
I came back humbled and willing to listen rather then talk demanding to be heard and understood. I to have some new boundaries and I let her know tonight about one of them and she didn't like it but oh well some of her will have to adjust also but really who I need to work on and focus on is ME.
