Well, Keli,
six months ago when I finally decided I'd had enough of my girlfriend, that decision was taken after lot of sharing with newer members and older omes alike, and of course my sponsor.
There was the pain and sadness of letting go but that pain would most probably be better than the pain of hanging on.

I kept the words of a song in mind=

Why should I worry,
that another may not love me,
cuase youre not the only lover Ive had.
Your sweet memories wil always comfort me,
so why should I be feeling sad.

As far as I can tell,
you knew so well,
that I was always at the end of the line,
But I still loved you as much as any man can,
but not enough to make you mine.

You let a godd love die,
you let it pass us by,
cause you tried to keep me hanging on,
and with all this doubt,
it will never work out,
so tommorow Il be travelling on.

So long easy rider,
you know Il miss you for a while,
But sooner or later,
I know that Il forget you.

So baby free me,
come on and free me,
come on and free me,
free me from you spell !

The leeting go has been difficult, but will come to pass.

It is not kind to belittle another persons pain.