been clean for ages my kids keep me busy and i have fun taking them places and playing and reading with them i have the perfect home perfect kids my family sucks but my partners family is great good friends but i dont do anything for myself exept watch movies and read i want to have fun and feel alive again i feel selfish to want this but my fun is drugs its all ive ever known what do straight people do for fun please note i cant even drink as i converted to islam so im muslim please help if its even possible i dont know anymore
I am struggling with that myself. It seems when I got high, all the time went by it didn't matter if I did nothing all day. now the days seem endless and I have to find things to fill it. Also I try to play with my son etc. but it doesn't always fill the void. Maybe you can find fun in groups such as your religious group or by exercising or joining some other group - crafts, gardening, anything. I wish I had answers for you and I hope you find peace and fun...whatever you do don't go backwards, that would not be fun!
Besides the above links, reading 3 chapters of Basic Text (our book of recovery in NA) - What Can I Do, Just For Today & More Will Be Revealed - helps me a lot to stay focused and keep the faith, allowing me to open up to enjoying life and having clean fun in recovery...
You can read these chapters from the online Basic Text at the below link...
Allow sometime for this file to upload after clicking on it as it's a big pdf file... you can use the bookmark tab on the left side of this weblink page to find these particular chapters I mentioned...
Best wishes & regards, Tahir.
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
Consider finding an NA group in your community... We don't drink either, alcohol is a drug. There are also a number of Muslims in the fellowship, I have many friends in NA who are Muslim... I just attended my first Muslim wedding, as a matter of fact.
We have fun. We have BBQ's and dances and conventions and all kinds of fun social activities.
I had to re-define "fun" and I realized that being high wasn't fun at the end... It was awful!
Keep posting and welcome!
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The truth does not change based on my inability to stomach it - Flannery O'Connor
My happiness grows in direct proportion to my acceptance and in inverse proportion to my expectations - Michael J. Fox
hey, i thought my fun was over as soon as i stopped the drugs but then i thought, geez if i was really haveing sooo much fun why would i stop. So the truth of the situation is that i wasn't having fun on drugs, i was just trying to take enough so my brain couldn't think, and i couldn't feel. This is not fun. So in recovery i had to figure out who i was and that means what i like. I took activities that i used to do as a child and started to try them out. Like bowling, like hockey, even crafts...... whatever i may have done i did, i also asked a lot of other memeber what they did for fun and then i tried that. Though trial and error i've learned a basic of what i like to do and what i dont. Some though i had to continuously try, like big na events, i used to be uncomfortable, and feel more alone in a big group of people. eventually after many attempts i have found a comfort and now really enjoy it. What i realized that my past year of my life, was more fun than the last 10 years of use.... Thanks na
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people who mind don't matter, and people who matter don't mind- Dr. Seuss
I have many activities called fun= playing music doing yoga good old coozie !!( know that one ?) walking fellowshiping after meetings being in study groups Meditation,,, attending Conventions,NA parties etc. all this had made me believe that Just for today,my thoughts can be on recovery and have fun,,clean and serene !! After all,,its a about living and enjoying life without the use of drugs !
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Raman an addict clean and serene just for today in NA Worldwide ; live to love and love to live the NA Way !!!
out of all my replies whish were great i get you i relate to the fact that i do soo much to fill my time but i keep filling it with stuff for other people (parner family friends kids ) i went out today to buy something nice to make me happy ha!nearly cried coulnt find anything for myself seen heaps of nice things for my kids then got a bag nice but feel like a looser just filling time
"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
I have been asking myself this same question all along. Untill I realized that I was having fun. However the fun I have now is never going to be the kind of "fun" I had before. It is not so intense or out of this world. You will have to find enjoyment in everyday kinds of things. Maybe you will find an activity that will take you to the same level of fun that drugs did but I haven't. But, I do have fun. I do things like camping, hiking, and playing with my kids for extra curricular. I don't think it is about having intense fun, that is not real. It is about enjoying life on a daily basis. The kind of fun drugs bring about is unreal and over the top. And it does leave us with high execptations but sooner or later you will learn to be happy and have fun doing legal and acceptable activities.
HEres what I do for fun I look for gold. Here some gold I got last summer one day and heres a piece of machinery I test ran a couple days ago thats going to get me even more gold
yeah, that was me too. it stopped being fun a looooong time ago. the best thing for me to do when it starts to sound even remotely good, tempting is to write about the last time i used, and then play the tape thru, as they say if it was still fun for me, i definitely wouldn't be here lol