I didn't clarify my post earlier, my stepson who is 24 is or was, not sure what anymore, since I can't get an honest answer out of him or his girlfriend, they are "Oxycotin" hope I spelled that right, users.. I guess my stepson from what my husband has said has been using since well like 2005 or so. They were in treatment, outpatient, but the cost were ungodly and they will not go anywhere that offers to help off your income due to they don't want to be in a facility.. I must say, I personally do not have an addictive type personality, so I can't clearly understand it all. but I think maybe you all on here can help me. I don't want to be angry anymore, I want to find a way to have peace, for me and our family.. I just thought I should clarify why I have come here...
"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
alanon! also, for the record, i tried to get sober with my ex and it just doesn't work. they each have to get sober for themselves, and it's too difficult to try and do it with someone you are that close with. he is 24 years old, so i'm sure if he wants help he can figure it out himself. if he doesn't want to go to a 'facility' or whatever you were saying then he's not ready to get sober--he needs to be ready to do it by any means necessary. i'm sorry if this sounds harsh or blunt but that is the truth as i personally know it. you can't fix him. he needs to hit his bottom and figure it out for himself. you can be supportive once he does that but holding his hand the whole way is a waste of your energy.
alanon! also, for the record, i tried to get sober with my ex and it just doesn't work. they each have to get sober for themselves, and it's too difficult to try and do it with someone you are that close with. he is 24 years old, he needs to hit his bottom and figure it out for himself. you can be supportive once he does that but holding his hand the whole way is a waste of your energy.
that's a nice of saying, throw him the **** out in the street so that he can acquire the gifts of desparation and willingness. And get a life for yourself in the process. Life is short live it to the fullest without baby sitting full grown adults.
