Hi this is my first time doing any kind of online chatting but recently i finally admitted to myself that I do need the extra support. I have heard such great things about NA online so I am excited to be a part of it. I have 6 months under belt and I am working hard to make it 7 months and so on. If anyone has any words of wisdom to share I am listening.
Welcome! Do you go to meetings as well? My best advice is to try to stay in the moment. Seven months will take care of itself... You just need to stay clean for today and before you know it, those days have become months and years and decades and then you're old as shit like Dean! LOL
Keep sharing!
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"The truth doesn't change based on my inability to stomach it". - Flannery O'Connor
If anyone has any words of wisdom to share I am listening.
Yes, enjoy every day as if it were your last.
"Work like you don't need money, Love like you've never been hurt, And dance like no one's watching."
"The truth is, there's no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now ... when?
Your life will always be filled with challenges. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Alfred D Souza ...
"For a long time it had seemed to me that life was about to begin. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."
This perspective has helped me to see that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.
So, treasure every moment that you have. And treasure it more because you shared it with someone special, special enough to spend your time ... and remember that time waits for no one ...
So stop waiting until you finish school ... until you go back to school ... until you lose ten pounds ... until you gain ten pounds ... until you have kids ... until your kids leave the house ... until you start work ... until you retire ... until you get married ... until you get divorced ... until Friday night ... until Sunday morning ... until you get a new car or home ... until your car or home is paid off ... until spring, until summer ... until fall ... until winter ... until you are off welfare ... until the first or fifteenth ... until your song comes on ... until you've had a drink ... until you've sobered up ... until you die ... until you are born again to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy ...
Happiness is a journey ... not a destination!!
"Work like you don't need money, Love like you've never been hurt, And dance like no one's watching."
Thank you everyone for your wonderful words of wisdom. And I really mean that some of you were pretty deap and I appreciate that. To answer the question about NA meetings: I used to go but it just recently became a conflict of interest for me so I can not continue on. But I am okay with that however my councelor is not. And she recommended that I try this instead. I am really happy to have joined.
Welcome aboard glad to have you here hopefully now that your clean and hopefully stay that way your soul will be less tortured.
It takes time to get time, I heard an old timer say that once.
What it meant to me was slow down and take it easy don't be in a rush, be patient work at things vigilantly and stay clean time will come when you can have a 1, 2, 3 .... years clean.
Nothing replaces a live meeting at least not for me, I have to find a new place to go they closed my men's meeting down that I enjoyed going to. some other window will open I am thinking threatment center meetings with men where I may be more of a service .
Welcome TS, congratulations on 6+ months of recovery, way to go!
Online NA has been one of my daily recovery tools throughout my cleantime... It has become part of my recovery "Basics". The amount of support, strength and hope that I got online a few years back was what brought me back from my last relapse, giving me hope when I was completely shattered and hopeless... Face-to-face or cyberspace, there is indeed God's grace...
Keep coming back, fellowship hugs and love, Tahir, a recovering addict from India.
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
Welcome... the only wisdom I have is work the steps, make phone calls, and the hardest thing to do is surrender. I have 1 1/2 years clean and all I can say is take one day at a time. As addicts we tend to think once we have time in we are cured. We will always have the disease of addiction. We just have to let god of our understanding take control. Glad your here!
Thank you for your words. In my life lately it does seem as though there is always an obstacle or set back. I do feel like I am trying to go some where and as soon as I start heading there something happens and I am back to square one. Maybe your right this is my life. I don't even know where I am trying to go. I do know that I am going to take your advise and stop waiting for things to be perfect. They will never be anyways.
I am working on "god" to by the way. Trying to find "it" and where "it" is. But it is hard.
Your right it is hard... I have found a god of my understanding but it is not the 'original ' god. The god of my understanding is the universe that I can depend on to listen and guide me through life! Surrender and you will find god! Remember... anything you are trying to do without surrendering ... you are screwing up. As addicts.. we made our lifes unmanagable... why do we think we can take care of it now? We cant! Surrender and trust your god of your understanding? Also remember.. we did not become addicted in one day so easy does it... it will all make since someday..... Im curious how old are you? What state are you in? Everything I share is how I make it one day at a time. This is not for me to tell you how to do your recovery. Everyone is different. If you ever want to talk or chat online let me know... Im there. I am 45 and my latest drug of choice was prescription dilauded. (prescription heroin) But I started with drinking, sex, and then pot and finally prescription drugs. As addicts we have to understand we will be recovering the rest of our lifes. I had one of my friends ask me how long they had to go to meetings. I told him that for me I will have to go the rest of my life. It is your choice however how many a week. I chose 2 and I look forward to going to see my new family and to welcome the new addicts. Hope you keep posting..
Thanks Todd. I will be talking with you. I need all the support I can get. I too started with pills vicodin to be exact. Then it progressed to oxycoton and the next thing I know I have a needle in my arm that is loaded wth heroin. Thank god it is over. And there must be a god because I did stop. By the way I am 28 and I live in NY. I am working on surrendering but I am confused as to how to do it?
Thanks Todd. I will be talking with you. I need all the support I can get. I too started with pills vicodin to be exact. Then it progressed to oxycoton and the next thing I know I have a needle in my arm that is loaded wth heroin. Thank god it is over. And there must be a god because I did stop. By the way I am 28 and I live in NY. I am working on surrendering but I am confused as to how to do it?
Surrender is a hard thing.. I still find it hard to do this.... Well you know I have all the answers and I dont need god or anyone to tell me how to live! Ha! You have to let god of your understanding help make decisions for you. Dont be hasty in making a decision! Remember we made bad decisions while using.... we have to look for help to do things now. It gets easier.... i still screw up! But thats ok... we learn from our mistakes! Hopefully! Do you have a sponcer? This is also very important! Have a great day.... If you want my email addy.... here it is.... marigoldhead@hotmail.com
I can admitt that I did not make good decisions while using. So I am stating to understand exactly what it means to surrender. Swallowing your pride and asking for help. I can do that. I will email you.
I can admitt that I did not make good decisions while using. So I am stating to understand exactly what it means to surrender. Swallowing your pride and asking for help. I can do that. I will email you.
You're way ahead with all that on board. I still suffer from self reliance. I look back at decisions that I made at 3 and 5 years clean that make go wtf was I thinking.
I can admitt that I did not make good decisions while using. So I am stating to understand exactly what it means to surrender. Swallowing your pride and asking for help. I can do that. I will email you.
You're way ahead with all that on board. I still suffer from self reliance. I look back at decisions that I made at 3 and 5 years clean that make go wtf was I thinking.
I can too Dean.... your not alone.... they say we learn from our mistakes... damn I have alot of learning to do!!!!
Dean C I look back too even 5 years ago and just want to kick myself for some of the decisions I made and some of the great ideas I had. What the f---k was I thinking?
I can admitt that I did not make good decisions while using. So I am stating to understand exactly what it means to surrender. Swallowing your pride and asking for help. I can do that. I will email you.
You're way ahead with all that on board. I still suffer from self reliance. I look back at decisions that I made at 3 and 5 years clean that make go wtf was I thinking.
I can too Dean.... your not alone.... they say we learn from our mistakes... damn I have alot of learning to do!!!!
I wish I learned from my mistakes the first time I made them. Some times it took me making the same mistake over and over again before I actually learned.
