im a 50 year old mom of a very angry 14 year old, i feel like im living with an addict....his behaviours and mood swings trigger a lot of old memories. i hate being at home....ive been in recovery for decades and come from abuse ect. so making my home a safe place was one of my proudest achievments in recovery and i was so grateful for it. these days i feel more screwed up than when i first came in...i have never been this afraid and stressed..i dont know what im supposed to do and im overwhelmed sometimes by 8:30 am. im so freaking tired, and i hate my life for the first time in many years. i use my "tools" but my faith is weak right now. i guess i would just like some prayers my way please...love you guys...
Hi Cindy. As a parent I thank God for the recovery tools I have in place that enable me to deal better with the world. Many times that world is solely focused on my children and all the bs I can allow to cloud how I deal with them. My relationships with my spouse , my children ,my father,my friends or the kid slinging burgers at mickey Ds can all improve when I apply the spiritual principles Im learning here. The problem for me was all those people and my inability to deal with them MADE ME USE. I cant belive how deluded I let this disease make me. Today the solution lies in me. How I act. How I re-act . I try to stay in the solution. Allowing fear,anxiety or anger into my life is MY problem. I find sharing in meetings . Calling my sponsor. And helping through service is a big help. The solution lies in ME. Good luck.
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Hi Cindy.... {{{hugs}}}. As the mother of two very rambunctious boys, 5 and 8, you just set my fears off! LOL Sometimes I'm so angry with them I can't believe it's me! I wish I had some experience, strength and hope to share with you but I'm not there yet. I only know that my problems are spiritual as is the solution.
You have my prayers!
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.