I am going to try not to give long story here. Basics are... I am on step 12. While doing step 11 I realized that the relationship I was in was not any good for my recovery. He is the father of my boys and I am very much in love with him. But he smokes weed. And doesn't see anything wrong with it. So I told him that being with him compromises my recovery and that is not something I am willing to. I love him so much. But I love my recovery and that has to come first. After a month of waiting and hoping for him to want to be back with us and not just a part time dad... I went on a date with a guy I kinda like to an NA dance. My ex did not like this. And all I could tell him is that I am not going to put my life on hold waiting for him to change. I can't change him. I refuse to try to change him. But that doesn't mean I have to accept what he does. I don't know. I don't want to make him angry. But I am tired of hurting.
He's got a 1 in 20 chance of getting clean (if he wants to) just like that rest of us. The trouble with weed is, on the surface, it appears harmless. But the fact is that when people do drugs, they become emotionally unavailable. How can you have a healthy relationship with that going on? Get on with your life. Life is short, be happy.
