I hope all that are reading this realize if we are pointing fingers realize how many of those fingers are pointing at you. I might not have the "ideal" life but it is mine to live and for My God to judge not any human should cast judgment on each other. I have realized by judging ppl we could be shutting out who might really need your love and not the sexual kinda love but the love that is pure and light. The bible says he without sin let him throw the first stone so my advice is to accept ppl as they are and realize it takes all kinds to make the world go round. life would be pretty boring if we all were in perfect image the choice has been given to us rather it be the next right thing or not as we all know we are responsible only for self outside of that we are pretty powerless sucks but all we can do if we have fallen is dust off your ass and get back up with full force and prepare the next storm. for the moment we become silent about the things that matter our lives come to a halt I have also learned that I am responsible for what and who I become. I hope in reading this you have a new light about the way you look at life or maybe in the way you look at me. I know from experience we are only as sick as our secrets. I know this is not a religious programI am sorru ifI offend but this is the only way I knew to gert mypoint across I blog in several different places NA being in my life for 20 years this is the first time I hhave used the bible to make a point but right now it is theonly promise I know will be kept
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Failure will never overtake me if my determination to succeed is strong enough. Og Mandino
nobody is judging anyone around here but thanks for that posting. Accepting one for who and what they are is pretty easy for me. My mom had taught me that at a very young age and I accept you no matter what happened to you, what you look like, what you do with your life is none of my business what is my business is if you are using and I am around that person than it does become my business. I am still learning and growing in my progress along with everyone else.
Good one Manon I like the one that say judge not lest yea be judged.
I try to keep the finger from pointing at anyone that way none are pointing back at me HE HHEH
The more we become dependent on a higher power in our lives the SMOOTHER things will go, least thats what works for me, the less I try to control the less turmoil and storms I have in my life.
I am the oh yea with little faith but i got that mustard seed size faith and its working for me.
I have had a really rough year financially at least thats how it's felt, I am down to the wire on my rent tomorrow it's due all month I have worried how its gonna get payed my regular job just doesn't cover all my bills but in the last week I have made my rent plus next months rent LOL the money started pouring in yesterday the rest hopefully today then friday I get payted from work then I pay the rent the auto insurance all the bills and BROKE AGAIN and the cycle starts all over. But my faith is enough to believe God will provide to me opportunitys to keep my life rolling as long as my direction and path are focused on recovery, thats the deal thats how it work for me.
I do judge the measuring stick is my life and my experience, we are all similiar but not exactly alike but we all know each other and know our insanitys if we judge we do it to be of service to another person to help them down ther e path and in there journey the same journey we are all on.
Hang in there Manon and just stay clean focus on the important issues the being your own personal recovery
Thanks, Manon. I remember when I was still struggling my sponsor told me, "Those who judge don't matter, and those who matter don't judge." For every member who judged me harshly, there were many others who encouraged and uplifted me. I tell my guys who struggle to stay clean this- You are being UNIQUELY equipped to carry this message to another addict who will walk through our doors one day and may only be able to get it from YOU! Use your experience, whatever it is! Thanks for posting and thanks for being here. Dan
-- Edited by dan h at 02:18, 2008-12-04
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"With a sweet tongue of kindness, you can drag an elephant by a hair." ~Persian Proverb
When I do end up judging another, I have realized at times that it's not so much about the other that I reveal through my judgmental analysis, but in actuality, it does tell me a lot about me and where I am at that particular moment. My judging another has often defined me than the other...
Also, when I feel that I'm being judged by another at times, I take it the same way... I let it go without getting affected as I know that it's more about their own state of being at that particular moment than it's about me when I feel judged. I can understand that through my own similar experiences of judging others. They are no different, and it's never about whom we judge, it's about the one who judges...
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
