"Pain is temporary. It may last a minute, or an hour, or a day, or a year, but eventually it will subside and something else will take its place. If I quit, however, it lasts forever." Lance Armstrong
What a wonderful message that can be applied to recovery. Recovering addicts are the ones that do no quit. No matter what. Pain is just a temporary thing. If we choose to fold to it, then we
are going to live forever in pain.
If we ride through the storm, we will get to the other side.
When the pain subsides, it leaves room, for love, joy, peace. Serenity.
So no matter how bad today is, if we hold on are reward will be so much better.
Remember, hold on for just this moment. Then maybe the next moment.
Pain never lasts forever.
Unless we give up.
Kathleen, A greatful addict in recovery.
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Yes, I bought a ticket on the crazy train.....Good thing it was a return ticket.
THis board is a PAIN today LOL I want to fight and make it fixed but I better surrender and let the technicians fix it cause nothing I do will fix it.
Reminds me of the song by Three days Grace
Pain, without love Pain, I can't get enough Pain, I like it rough 'Cause I'd rather feel pain than nothing at all
But we got used to feeling that pain , that's what was scaring me I was getting used to it all and hating it at the same time.
SO yeah still feel pain, still feel fear feels like I feed on it sometimes and want it back then I get struck with memorys of how it was. My girl asked me tonight how I smoked crack and I started describing where I got my glass and brillow and went through the whole thing in detail and I remembered the pain I went through how I almost cut off my finger breaking a hot pipe ow my fingers were always burnt on the tips and I was embarrassed the someone would know why, pain of running out always running out then the pain of having to come down and I would hope to have some alcohol to drink enough to bring me down to pass out.
That was just the physical stuff, the pain of not having any control in saying no of chasing the stuff lying and deceit to get it, stealing from anyone and everyone of not even trusting myself.
An awful lot of pain back then, today I'm glad i decided to give it up, do i miss it? yeah some of it the euphoria I miss that but is it worth it anymore? nope not anymore there's to much PAIN involved.
And thats where we need to be to get clean often times.
Hi all I am shannon an addict and I am grateful that you posted this. I am going through some feelings with family right now that is really painful. My mom died 2 yrs ago and I haven't seen my grandmother for 2 years. She told me all week last week she was going to sto on her way to Florida and have dinner with my sister and I. Well me being the damn idiot I am I believed her. So Tuesday I usually always go to this one meeting instead I missed it, cause of grandmother coming into town. Well my sister and I sat here and sat here waiting for her til 8pm. This woman never called to let us know she wasn't going to show up, she couldn't make it, she had us worried that something could have happened. My sister called her yesterday and grandmother said oh we were stuck in traffic and that we didn't feel like stopping. Then she said how they made good time arriving in Florida and she was home since 2:30pm yesterday afternoon and she never once picked the phone up to call anyone. She didn't see that this really has caused some pain for us. She is the last one alive in my mom's family. I have been really depressed before this but this really put me into a blue mood. I talked with my sponsor about it and my sponsor has said do something different today so I am forcing myself to a meeting tonight. I can't stop crying it hurts just to think that your own grandmother doesn't even care about you. I told her I was in physical therapy for my elbow. I still haven't had a phone call from this woman. I am sick of doing all the phone calling to everyone right now. If she hates me so much why doesn't she just say it so I can move on with my own life. I know that this too shall pass soon.
Shannon I will pray that you move past this theres a lot of thing beyond our power, people is one situations and things, we turn these things over and keep trudging forward.
Bless you heart for your share get that elbow well and make your heart well too and don't stay in this situation with Grandma we don't need to beat ourselves up anymore.
It sounds like things are feeling a little tough right now.
I too come from a family that has little interest in anything outside of
their own bubble. Nothing feels worse that when the people that you expect to
love and care for you show exactly the opposite. That can be compounded even further
when they forget the rules of common decency.
I have a mother that is very similar to your grandmother. She gives me the sense sometimes that
any relationship with me is not worth it. This has caused me a lot of hurt and disappointment over the
years and really affected my outlook on things for quite a long time.
When I embraced the concept that I was powerless over other people, it allowed me to look at
our relationship in a different light.
I looked at what was causing my hurt feelings, the thing that seemed to stand out was that
she was not meeting my expectations.
My expectations of her....
A very wise person once told me that if I expect things from other people I am only in the
long run hurting myself.
So I started to lower my expectations of her, and I started to raise my acceptance about who she really was.
No, she is not the mother I would have picked, nor is she a person that I find that I have a lot in common with.
I look at our relationship as a one moment at a time. Sometimes she surprises me.
I know that just because that lady is not interested in me, that I am still a loving, caring, interesting person.
I see it, and now that I have accepted it, others see it too.
That is one of the beauties of NA. Most of us have suffered severed or incomplete relationships outside of the
rooms. The rooms give us a place to go where we ARE okay. People love us because we are us, and no matter who we where, what we did, or what we are dealing with today,
the door will always be open and will never close to us no matter what.
Sometimes at times like these to turn inward and see the specialness of you is a great starting point for
finding peace or happiness.
Remember Shannon, you are a special person, and a beautiful soul, and we are happy
that you are here.
We love you
Keep coming back.
Kathleen
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Yes, I bought a ticket on the crazy train.....Good thing it was a return ticket.
Yes in a rough little spot right now, but this too shall pass. I will keep coming back. I have to just realize also that maybe it is hard for her to come near the city we live in because that is where my mom lived and she is running from her feelings at the moment also. I would hope that is what she is doing. Her little world is the only one that exists and if u aren't a part of oh well piss on you. That is how she has treated 3 out of 4 grandchildren. But you know what she has 1 grandson by my uncle who doesn't even respcect her at all and you know what they say what comes around goes around. She is getting total disrespect from him. If she wants that then fine, the other 3 grandchildren she has always showed her much respect and love and care. You know they say death can either make or break a family and in this addicts life it has broken a family into half. I am not going to chase this woman for love the way I watched my mom. I just have to accept her for who she is. But you know what I can say I know I will be okay because I have some principles that I now can live by that make me that much better of a person. I will have to be the bigger person in her world and call her and let her know my disappointment that her not visiting was to me. Let her feel the pain and hurt that I have been feeling lately cause all I want is that connection to my mom.
