I am a 47 year old woman who has been in NA for 11+ years. My cleandate is 1/25/03. I had that reservation problem with alcohol. I never thought it was a problem (read the basic text and see me!). Well, the day before that cleandate I got hammered and woke up the next day saying 'Never AgAin! I surrender-I am definitely an addict so therefore an alcoholic. This drug WILL take me down!
With that in mind-I am on here now and have been told by sme wonderful women I have chatted with that there were online sponsors. I moved from a city to a small town. One thing our literature tells us that we look for what we want to have in a sponsor. I am not being egotistical but I just cannot find that where I live. I have the most cleantime and recovery of any woman around here except one who I have become fast friends with. But she has not worked or lived all of the steps. We talk often about how to sponsor and how to be sponsored. I adore hers-but she finds herself being guided more by me. I am in an NA group where I am the only person with the amount of recovery I have. I went into NA being told I wasn't an addict and I didn't belong. I knew the truth as I read the literature so I went and took their crap trying to help myself. So, I am a fighter and I truly embraced my recovery and fought for it. I couldn't find a sponsor for a long time so I focused on going to as many meetings as I could and the Traditions. I became a stickler for them!!! I also was the first to use the Tenth Concept at a business meeting in a 25 year old group. It was the oldest group in a large city and nobody had ever considered the concepts. Luckily now-they are becoming a very important and necessary part of our recovery. My question is is there any woman on here with the willingness to get to know me some and see it they could sponsor me. I do want to rework the steps. I feel that right now my sponsor is God. I am a very spiritual person and I never lost my God and my faith through my addiction. I knew what I was doing was wrong and it was the wrong path. I am so happy being clean today. I pray that all addicts have a chance for a new way of life. We all deserve it! Please write to me if you would like to chat. Sincerely, Carla M.
You can also if you haven't already go to earthgroupNA.org and register in order to see the whole forum, they have a section for sponsorship help , men and woman both.
I Welcome you and glad that you didn't go all the way out and stay out whats important is your back with full knowledge now of your condition, we can never stop learning.
I unfortunately am having a simliar problem...I've got almost 3yrs. and there are next to no women in this area I've moved to. I have a contact somewhere in this state through a predecessor knowing this guy down here that knows like everyone in the state with 10+ years of cleantime. But the guy hasn't emailed me yet as to what meetings to go to in order to find these women.
The first meeting I went to down here this guy from out of town literally told me during the meeting that "if I was a woman in recovery I'd go to such and such meeting..." I have not gotten to such and such meeting due to having limited gas and funds, but I do intend to go there soon~!! Kinda sucks that the meetings closest to me are a few good 'ole boys who have some good sounding recovery, and a mere few other people that I think don't want to be there. Plus, I'm used to getting hugged, and no one hugs down here that i've met yet...that's kind of a bummer too. Oh well.
I feel for you Carla~!!! I can definately relate.
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"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." ~Oscar Wilde~
I unfortunately am having a simliar problem...I've got almost 3yrs. and there are next to no women in this area I've moved to. I have a contact somewhere in this state through a predecessor knowing this guy down here that knows like everyone in the state with 10+ years of cleantime. But the guy hasn't emailed me yet as to what meetings to go to in order to find these women.
The first meeting I went to down here this guy from out of town literally told me during the meeting that "if I was a woman in recovery I'd go to such and such meeting..." I have not gotten to such and such meeting due to having limited gas and funds, but I do intend to go there soon~!! Kinda sucks that the meetings closest to me are a few good 'ole boys who have some good sounding recovery, and a mere few other people that I think don't want to be there. Plus, I'm used to getting hugged, and no one hugs down here that i've met yet...that's kind of a bummer too. Oh well.
I feel for you Carla~!!! I can definately relate.
We REALLY appreciate your shares on the board hope that ties you over until you find more support cause we need you here *******CYBER HUGS******
...and no offense to any good 'ole boys here on the board, LOL
I'm just used to being neckdeep in recovery, and it's just totally different. I've been so depressed. Shit, within the first 24 hours I was here, I was ready to go home!! It's getting a little better, small things. Hopefully, it'll just keep getting better little by little.
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"We are all in the gutter, but some of us are looking at the stars." ~Oscar Wilde~
LOL! I don't know which of our narcotic allergies is worse! Thanks for the support!!! I (one day at a time) celebrate 6 years clean on the 25th-pretty psyched!!!!!
Thanks to all of you for sharing with me...I am truly grateful. My prayers to all of you...wherever your recovery is. Just don't use and use what works to stay clean. Luckily, I did work all 12 steps-pre step guide. I found it grueling! I also live in an area where all the women are too into 'sponsor trees'. I have 11 years of recovery and don;t know shit to them! I am the 'city girl' and they are frightened by me. Heaven forbid I am not hanging on by my teeth gritting sleeping on my sponsors couch after 5 years clean. I pray for them too! For Goldie-thank you especially because you are a woman and I sooooooooo can relate to what you said!!!! Love you all!!!!!!!!
LOL! I don't know which of our narcotic allergies is worse! Thanks for the support!!! I (one day at a time) celebrate 6 years clean on the 25th-pretty psyched!!!!!
