the whole idea of failure, including the painful sense of self it creates, is a lie you need no longer live with.
Truth #1
The truth is... nothing in life can stop you from starting your life all over, at anytime, because the true fabric of life is a cosmic weave of ceaseless beginnings. That's right. The Power you need to start over is backed up by Reality itself, which will place its supreme strength on the side of whoever chooses it over self-destructive tendencies. All that is needed to put the power of this ever-renewing truth to work in your life is for you to consciously agree to view any unwanted or unhappy moment not as some unavoidable ending, but as the temporary and passing condition that it really is.
Truth #2
The truth is... just as the our own physical eye can't see itself other than by gazing upon a reflection of itself, we can't see our mental self other than by gazing upon those mental images of our own creation. So, when "seeing" a failure in our mind's eye, we need only remember in that very moment this Truth: It is we ourselves who put it there! Now, instead of feeling defeated by how we picture ourselves, we can see through this defeated feeling itself by daring to see all the way back to how this painful painting came into existence in the first place.
Truth #3
The truth is... that just as it is impossible to feel ourselves a "failure" without having first condemned ourselves for some shortcoming, to do so tells of a secret self-duality (the perfect-me that always dwells on how we should or must be and our disease of addiction that can only thrive in failures) that is the seed of our feelings of failure. Study the following truth closely: In order to see ourselves as being "small," something within us (self-loathing) must be standing over ourselves at the same time. Now see that neither of these selves within us can exist in our mind's eye without the other, and that being self-divided like this, we must feel as though we are going to topple over and fall. But seeing the truth that we are neither of these inter-dependent selves unites us in a higher understanding that sets us free from this trap.
Truth #4
The truth is... the painful identity that results from thinking of yourself as a failure can exist only for as long as you cling to some self-created, self-sinking label. The only reason you won't abandon this sinking ship of yourself is because in its cargo hold is stored all your cherished ideas about what it means to be a success. The discovery of this truth reveals that the only weight dragging you under is your best ideas about how to sail through life.
Truth #5
The truth is... even the most superficial glance at the world in which we live shows us, beyond any doubts, that there is nothing living that is not a work-in-progress. This encouraging fact of life reveals a great secret from which we can draw true comfort in times of our trials. Even when it feels like life might just break us, these same trying moments are only part of the Truth's broader plan to make us stronger, wiser, and more willing to delve into the truth of our existence.
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
when i lived in guilt and shame i was nothing but a failure thanks to my higher power and the program i don't live there anymore today my failures are my successes i understand the concept of a grateful addict and have become one :) today for me... the truth is... i am an addict, i accept this whole heartedly
and what i choose to practice today is living in this moment, no failure in this moment the time is NOW i am HERE wishing you's a heartsmile day Wendy
I was never pretty enough, skinny enough, had enough money, had a big enough house, nice enough car, rich enough boyfriend husband, so on so on. I was beautiful, thin, had money, a gorgeous home, drove a Rolls, and Mercedes, the boyfriend fiancee exceptionally wealthy. Still it was aweful and I was dying. This was at 22 years old I still had another 16 years to go. We still were doing lots and lots of drugs and alcohol more than most people because of the money.
I have an unquiet mind. I have listened to my own head telling me about what I should do, should have done, or could have done. This has come from hearing it most of my life that I never used any of my talents and my abilities thatI wasted my life away, coming from my dad
This form of abuse builds on a child from early on and molds them in what way they are going to look at themselves. Needless to say that I have a low opinion of myself. No matter if I can Oil Paint, decorate, cook, so on. Just hearing those comments even when the good comments are thrown in later they don't matter. All I heard was the painful voice YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH BLESSED. SO then I passed the same type of behavior down to my SON, sad isn't it. That without HELP we mimick exactly what we know is wrong and hurts. But we don't know any different. That is WHY RECOVERY TOOLS are so BENEFICIAL. Without learnig a different life we will immitate what we have known before. Most of us from a dysfunctional home only know dysfunction. When I became SOber (I have remained that way coming up on 14 years in February 2008) my life changed for the better ONE Day at a TIME. I am always improving with GOD's help.
For me I LOVE GOD, I PRAY, I go where he tells me to go ( like here), Study the BIBLE at Church, Worship, Meditate, fast, and do things that bring me closer. That way I am not always thinking about me, me ,me, me ,me. I can get out of me and help someone else that needs the help. I have been given the GIFT of SOBRIETY and I want to PASS it on to the NEXT PERSON that is SUFFERING.
I sure hope that I can help someone here because that is my only aim is to help. SO GOd's Blessings to you all,
