My husband is a cocaine addict. He lost his job of almost 20 years due to his anger when withdrawing from the drug. I only see him once or twice a week and I am sick with worry. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to help him. He came home yesterday after about a 10 day coke binge, looking very bad...He hadn't even changed clothes in a few days...He is very thin and looks exhausted. I don't try to argue or even talk about his problem because it only makes him angry and I'm afraid he will just leave again. He slept all day yesterday, ate dinner, and then went back to sleep. I want him to be free of this drug more than anything in the world. I have worried myself into a state of deep depression, have been living like a recluse, only leaving the house to go to my job...I then come home and wait, just incase he comes home. I can't see myself going on like this much longer. Can someone please tell me what to do? Can someone please tell me how to treat him, how to make him want to live without cocaine? I am pretty much at my wit's end right now. I would very much appreciate any ideas or suggestions. These have become the darkest days of my life. Thank you
My experiences with my loved ones' addiction is such that I cannot do anything to help him/her/them. But I can surely get help for my situation in all this.
Please attend a NarAnon Family Group Meeting in your locality. There are many members like you there who have been through what me and you have been/are going through due to a loved one's addiction. They have all found a way, a solution, and they live in that solution, so do I. I'm sure you could too with the help of others like us at NarAnon.
Here's the link to check out if there's a NarAnon meeting nearby where you live...
http://nar-anon.org/naranongroups.htm
You can also find support and help at this NarAnon Online Group, just like our forum here...
http://www.naranon.com/board/
Another 12 step fellowship that has helped me a lot towards understanding what it is that I'm going through in context of my loved ones' addiction is
http://www.codependents.org/
Hope this helps...
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"If we do an honest examination of exactly what we are giving, we are better able to evaluate the results we are getting."Chapter 10 - Emotional Pain - NA Way of Life.
