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potatodog · potatodog

I'm totally new to the situation I'm in. I have a loved one going into rehab tomorrow. I would like any information as to where I can go for information for what I can do to make our home better for her when she gets out. I also need to know what I can do to help her in any way possible. Our whole family wants noth...

Dave R · Dave R

"We feared that if we ever revealed ourselves as we were, we would surely be rejected." Basic Text, p. 32 = Having relationships without barriers, ones in which we can be entirely open with our feelings, is something many of us desire. At the same time, the possibility of such intimacy c...

Dave R · Dave R

"After coming to NA, we found ourselves among a very special group of people who have suffered like us and found recovery. In their experiences, freely shared, we found hope for ourselves. If the program worked for them, it would work for us." Basic Text, p. 10 = A newcomer walks into hi...

Dave R · Dave R

"Help for addicts begins only when we are able to admit complete defeat. This can be frightening, but it is the foundation on which we have built our lives." Basic Text, p. 22 = Most of us have tried everything we can think of, exerted every ounce of force possible, to fill the spiritual ho...

BigV · BigV

How do we help the old timer who suffers from narcissistic disorder, bragging on how he's started all the fellowships in our town and even started fellowships in other places, who brags about his 46 years sober, who yells and screams at people, swears in meetings, literally engulfs new comers swarmi...

Dave R · Dave R

"Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs." Step Twelve = There is no such thing as a "failed" Twelfth Step call. Even if our prospect doesn't get clean, we have a...

Dave R · Dave R

"...we covered low self-esteem by hiding behind phony images that we hoped would fool people. The masks have to go." Basic Text, p. 33 = Over-sensitivity, insecurity, and lack of identity are often associated with active addiction. Many of us carry these with us into recovery; our fe...

Dave R · Dave R

July 23 Surrendering self-will "We want and demand that things always go our way. We should know from our past experience that our way of doing things did not work." Basic Text, p. 93 = All of us have ideas, plans, goals for our lives. There's nothing in the NA program that says we shouldn't...

Dave R · Dave R

"For us, to use is to die, often in more ways than one." Basic Text, p. 82 = As newcomers, many of us came to our first meeting with only a small spark of life remaining. That spark, our spirit, wants to survive. Narcotics Anonymous nurtures that spirit. The love of the fellowship quic...

Dave R · Dave R

"If, after a period of time, we find ourselves in trouble with our recovery, we have probably stopped doing one or more of the things that helped us in the earlier stages of our recovery." Basic Text, p. 95 = Surrender is just for newcomers, right? Wrong! After we've been around awhile, s...

Dave R · Dave R

"We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable." Step One = The First Step begins with "we," and there"s a reason for that. There is great strength in making a verbal admission of our powerlessness. And when we go to mee...

Dave R · Dave R

"Our disease always resurfaced or continued to progress until, in desperation, we sought help from each other in Narcotics Anonymous." Basic Text, p. 13 = When we think of being desperate, we envision an undesirable state: a poor, bedraggled soul frantically clawing at something so...

kaitlynmacciocca · kaitlynmacciocca

Hi, I moved to Austin TX to get clean. Not court ordered, I did this for myself. My fiance is down here but seemingly wants nothing to do with me and gets angry that I am homesick when he didnt want me down here to begin with, not yet at least. I attend meetings religiously, before I look for job but my sobrie...

Dave R · Dave R

"Do we fully accept the fact that our every attempt to stop using or to control our using failed?" Basic Text, p. 19 = The room is dark. Your forehead is bathed in cold sweat. Your heart is racing. You open your eyes, sure that you've just blown your clean time. You've had a using dream, a...

Dave R · Dave R

"We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all." Step Eight = All human beings struggle with self-centeredness. The chronic self-centeredness that lies at the very core of addiction makes that struggle doubly difficult for people like us. M...

Dave R · Dave R

"Social acceptability does not equal recovery." Basic Text, p. 22 = One of the first things that happens to many of us in recovery is that we start to look better. We get healthier; we bathe; we dress more appropriately. And without the goading of active addiction, many of us finally sto...

Dave R · Dave R

"If we are hurting, and most of us do from time to time, we learn to ask for help." Basic Text, p. 83 = Sometimes recovery gets downright difficult. It can be even more difficult to get humble enough to ask for help. We think, "I have all this time clean. I should be better than this!&...

Dave R · Dave R

"We were trapped by our need for the instant gratification that drugs gave us." Basic Text, p. 25 = "I want what I want, and I want it now!" That's about as patient as most of us ever got in our active addiction. The obsession and compulsion of our disease gave us a one-track way o...

Dave R · Dave R

"Deep inside, I had feelings of inadequacy and inferiority." = Somewhere along the way, many of us developed strong feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. Deep inside was a voice that continually cried out, "You're worthless!" Many of us learn to recognize this cha...

The Tin Man · The Tin Man

Is any one here?

Dave R · Dave R

"We share comfort and encouragement with others." Basic Text, p. 99 = Many of us have watched as babies take their first steps. The mother holds the child on its feet. The father kneels nearby with outstretched arms, encouraging the little one, his face flooded with devotion. The ba...

Dave R · Dave R

"That old nest of negativism followed me everywhere I went." Basic Text, p. 137 = A negative attitude is the trademark of active addiction. Everything that occurred in our lives was someone or something else's fault. We had blaming others for our shortcomings down to a fine science....

Dave R · Dave R

"...the time has come when that tired old lie, "Once an addict, always an addict," will no longer be tolerated by either society or the addict himself. We do recover." Basic Text, p. 89 = From time to time, we hear speakers share that they don't really understand spiritual pr...

Dave R · Dave R

"It is important for you to know that you will hear God mentioned at NA meetings. What we are referring to is a Power greater than ourselves that makes possible what seems impossible." IP No. 22, Welcome to NA = Most of us come to Narcotics Anonymous with a variety of preconceptions abou...

Dave R · Dave R

"One aspect of our spiritual awakening comes through the new understanding of our Higher Power that we develop by sharing another addict's recovery." Basic Text, p. 52 = We've heard it said that we often see God most clearly in one another. We see the truth of this when we practice our Tw...

Dave R · Dave R

"The main thing [the Eighth Step] does for us is to help build awareness that, little by little, we are gaining new attitudes about ourselves and how we deal with other people." Basic Text, p. 39 = To say "Im sorry" probably isn't such a foreign idea to most of us. In our active a...

LizC · LizC

Alright I'm getting married in 2 days so we have a couple people in town staying at our house. One a "recovering" addict who has no respect for anything. He went to rehab and calls himself clean yet has smoked probably 4 bowls of weed and has been drinking for 14 hours since he got here. I really...

12StepResearcher · 12StepResearcher

Are you in AA/NA?Do you have a sponsor? Are you a sponsor?Looking for volunteers to take part in a focus group examining aspects of the AA/NA model that are helpful.Volunteers must be a current member of AA/NA and have a sponsor or be a sponsor.Participation is completely voluntary and will involve a...

Dave R · Dave R

"The nature of our belief will determine the manner of our prayers and meditation." Basic Text, p. 44 = How do we pray? For each NA member, this is a deeply personal matter. Many of us find that, over time, we develop a manner of prayer and meditation based on what we learn from others and w...

Dave R · Dave R

"We learn that conflicts are a part of reality, and we learn new ways to resolve them instead of running from them." Basic Text, p. 90 = From time to time, we all experience conflicts. It may be that we just can't get along with that new coworker. Maybe our friends are driving us crazy. Or...

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	Please help (Preview) I'm totally new to the situation I'm in. I have a loved one going into rehab tomorrow. I would like any information as to where I can go for information for what I can do to make our home better for her when she gets out. I also need to know what I can do to help her in any way possible. Our whole family wants noth...	potatodog	5	1799	Jul 29, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 28 Secrets and intimacy (Preview) "We feared that if we ever revealed ourselves as we were, we would surely be rejected." Basic Text, p. 32 = Having relationships without barriers, ones in which we can be entirely open with our feelings, is something many of us desire. At the same time, the possibility of such intimacy c...	Dave R	1	1730	Jul 29, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 27 We do recover (Preview) "After coming to NA, we found ourselves among a very special group of people who have suffered like us and found recovery. In their experiences, freely shared, we found hope for ourselves. If the program worked for them, it would work for us." Basic Text, p. 10 = A newcomer walks into hi...	Dave R	1	1857	Jul 29, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 26 Unconditional surrender (Preview) "Help for addicts begins only when we are able to admit complete defeat. This can be frightening, but it is the foundation on which we have built our lives." Basic Text, p. 22 = Most of us have tried everything we can think of, exerted every ounce of force possible, to fill the spiritual ho...	Dave R	1	2051	Jul 29, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	How to deal with the sick old timer (Preview) How do we help the old timer who suffers from narcissistic disorder, bragging on how he's started all the fellowships in our town and even started fellowships in other places, who brags about his 46 years sober, who yells and screams at people, swears in meetings, literally engulfs new comers swarmi...	BigV	3	6581	Jul 26, 2015 by BigV
	JFT July 25 Twelfth Step "failure"? (Preview) "Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to addicts, and to practice these principles in all our affairs." Step Twelve = There is no such thing as a "failed" Twelfth Step call. Even if our prospect doesn't get clean, we have a...	Dave R	1	1667	Jul 26, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 24 The masks have to go (Preview) "...we covered low self-esteem by hiding behind phony images that we hoped would fool people. The masks have to go." Basic Text, p. 33 = Over-sensitivity, insecurity, and lack of identity are often associated with active addiction. Many of us carry these with us into recovery; our fe...	Dave R	1	1919	Jul 24, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 23 Surrendering self-wil (Preview) July 23 Surrendering self-will "We want and demand that things always go our way. We should know from our past experience that our way of doing things did not work." Basic Text, p. 93 = All of us have ideas, plans, goals for our lives. There's nothing in the NA program that says we shouldn't...	Dave R	1	1969	Jul 23, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 22 Spiritual death (Preview) "For us, to use is to die, often in more ways than one." Basic Text, p. 82 = As newcomers, many of us came to our first meeting with only a small spark of life remaining. That spark, our spirit, wants to survive. Narcotics Anonymous nurtures that spirit. The love of the fellowship quic...	Dave R	1	1274	Jul 23, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 21 Surrender is for everyone (Preview) "If, after a period of time, we find ourselves in trouble with our recovery, we have probably stopped doing one or more of the things that helped us in the earlier stages of our recovery." Basic Text, p. 95 = Surrender is just for newcomers, right? Wrong! After we've been around awhile, s...	Dave R	1	413	Jul 21, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 20 Step One (Preview) "We admitted that we were powerless over our addiction, that our lives had become unmanageable." Step One = The First Step begins with "we," and there"s a reason for that. There is great strength in making a verbal admission of our powerlessness. And when we go to mee...	Dave R	1	425	Jul 21, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 18 The gift of desperation (Preview) "Our disease always resurfaced or continued to progress until, in desperation, we sought help from each other in Narcotics Anonymous." Basic Text, p. 13 = When we think of being desperate, we envision an undesirable state: a poor, bedraggled soul frantically clawing at something so...	Dave R	1	396	Jul 18, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	having the worst time, burning desire out the ass. help! (Preview) Hi, I moved to Austin TX to get clean. Not court ordered, I did this for myself. My fiance is down here but seemingly wants nothing to do with me and gets angry that I am homesick when he didnt want me down here to begin with, not yet at least. I attend meetings religiously, before I look for job but my sobrie...	kaitlynmacciocca	4	507	Jul 18, 2015 by MIKEF
	JFT July 17 Using our using dreams (Preview) "Do we fully accept the fact that our every attempt to stop using or to control our using failed?" Basic Text, p. 19 = The room is dark. Your forehead is bathed in cold sweat. Your heart is racing. You open your eyes, sure that you've just blown your clean time. You've had a using dream, a...	Dave R	1	393	Jul 17, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 15 Relations with others (Preview) "We made a list of all persons we had harmed and became willing to make amends to them all." Step Eight = All human beings struggle with self-centeredness. The chronic self-centeredness that lies at the very core of addiction makes that struggle doubly difficult for people like us. M...	Dave R	1	371	Jul 16, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 14 An inside job (Preview) "Social acceptability does not equal recovery." Basic Text, p. 22 = One of the first things that happens to many of us in recovery is that we start to look better. We get healthier; we bathe; we dress more appropriately. And without the goading of active addiction, many of us finally sto...	Dave R	1	403	Jul 16, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 13 Humility in action (Preview) "If we are hurting, and most of us do from time to time, we learn to ask for help." Basic Text, p. 83 = Sometimes recovery gets downright difficult. It can be even more difficult to get humble enough to ask for help. We think, "I have all this time clean. I should be better than this!&...	Dave R	1	345	Jul 16, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 12 Patience (Preview) "We were trapped by our need for the instant gratification that drugs gave us." Basic Text, p. 25 = "I want what I want, and I want it now!" That's about as patient as most of us ever got in our active addiction. The obsession and compulsion of our disease gave us a one-track way o...	Dave R	1	348	Jul 16, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 16 Self-esteem (Preview) "Deep inside, I had feelings of inadequacy and inferiority." = Somewhere along the way, many of us developed strong feelings of inadequacy and inferiority. Deep inside was a voice that continually cried out, "You're worthless!" Many of us learn to recognize this cha...	Dave R	0	361	Jul 16, 2015 by Dave R
	Hi i am new here (Preview) Is any one here?	The Tin Man	16	816	Jul 12, 2015 by The Tin Man
	JFT July 11 Encouragement (Preview) "We share comfort and encouragement with others." Basic Text, p. 99 = Many of us have watched as babies take their first steps. The mother holds the child on its feet. The father kneels nearby with outstretched arms, encouraging the little one, his face flooded with devotion. The ba...	Dave R	1	361	Jul 11, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 10 A positive attitude (Preview) "That old nest of negativism followed me everywhere I went." Basic Text, p. 137 = A negative attitude is the trademark of active addiction. Everything that occurred in our lives was someone or something else's fault. We had blaming others for our shortcomings down to a fine science....	Dave R	1	375	Jul 11, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 9 We do recover! (Preview) "...the time has come when that tired old lie, "Once an addict, always an addict," will no longer be tolerated by either society or the addict himself. We do recover." Basic Text, p. 89 = From time to time, we hear speakers share that they don't really understand spiritual pr...	Dave R	1	368	Jul 9, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 8 The "G" word (Preview) "It is important for you to know that you will hear God mentioned at NA meetings. What we are referring to is a Power greater than ourselves that makes possible what seems impossible." IP No. 22, Welcome to NA = Most of us come to Narcotics Anonymous with a variety of preconceptions abou...	Dave R	1	443	Jul 8, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 7 God in each other (Preview) "One aspect of our spiritual awakening comes through the new understanding of our Higher Power that we develop by sharing another addict's recovery." Basic Text, p. 52 = We've heard it said that we often see God most clearly in one another. We see the truth of this when we practice our Tw...	Dave R	1	433	Jul 7, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 6 "I'm sorry" (Preview) "The main thing [the Eighth Step] does for us is to help build awareness that, little by little, we are gaining new attitudes about ourselves and how we deal with other people." Basic Text, p. 39 = To say "Im sorry" probably isn't such a foreign idea to most of us. In our active a...	Dave R	1	549	Jul 6, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	Aggravated Fakes (Preview) Alright I'm getting married in 2 days so we have a couple people in town staying at our house. One a "recovering" addict who has no respect for anything. He went to rehab and calls himself clean yet has smoked probably 4 bowls of weed and has been drinking for 14 hours since he got here. I really...	LizC	13	1203	Jul 6, 2015 by michaelg
	Looking for volunteers to take part in a focus group on sponsors in the San Diego, CA area. sponsors research meetings recovery (Preview) Are you in AA/NA?Do you have a sponsor? Are you a sponsor?Looking for volunteers to take part in a focus group examining aspects of the AA/NA model that are helpful.Volunteers must be a current member of AA/NA and have a sponsor or be a sponsor.Participation is completely voluntary and will involve a...	12StepResearcher	1	4756	Jul 6, 2015 by michaelg
	JFT July 5 Exploring the spiritual options (Preview) "The nature of our belief will determine the manner of our prayers and meditation." Basic Text, p. 44 = How do we pray? For each NA member, this is a deeply personal matter. Many of us find that, over time, we develop a manner of prayer and meditation based on what we learn from others and w...	Dave R	1	383	Jul 5, 2015 by cdbuckberry
	JFT July 4 Conflict (Preview) "We learn that conflicts are a part of reality, and we learn new ways to resolve them instead of running from them." Basic Text, p. 90 = From time to time, we all experience conflicts. It may be that we just can't get along with that new coworker. Maybe our friends are driving us crazy. Or...	Dave R	1	450	Jul 4, 2015 by cdbuckberry
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